Common Ground
For anyone about to visit a grandparent and wondering what you will talk about. Common Ground plans the visit from the tastes you share, found in Qloo's taste data. Why this exists
Try a sample family
Speaks Spanish. Loves Pedro Infante, Roman Holiday, Javier Solis, making tamales at Christmas.
Loves Bad Bunny, Spirited Away, baking.
Why this exists
A visit to an older relative matters, and it is easy to put off. The distance is real, and so is the worry about what to say once you are there.
“While data on social isolation is more limited, it is estimated to affect up to 1 in 3 older adults and 1 in 4 adolescents.”
People worldwide. World Health Organization, news release on the report of its Commission on Social Connection, 30 June 2025
“Thinking about all your grandchild(ren), how far (in miles) do you live from your grandchild(ren)?”
“500 miles or more 29%”
Grandparents in the United States, age 35 and older, asked in late 2025. They could name more than one distance. AARP Research, Powering Families: The Essential Role of Grandparents in Care, Connection and Support, annotated questionnaire, June 2026
“Close to two-thirds (65%) of third- or higher-generation Latinos say they cannot carry on a conversation well in Spanish.”
Latino adults in the United States whose parents were also born there. Pew Research Center, 20 September 2023, from a survey of August 2022
Common Ground cannot shorten the distance. It can make the next visit easier to begin: it starts from what you both already love, keeps the plan small, and writes the questions in their language, with the English beside them.
It is a helper for a family visit. It is not a medical tool, and it does not diagnose or treat anything.
What is sent, and where
- Stays on this device
- The two names, and a copy of what you type in the form, so it is there when you come back.
- NVIDIA Nemotron models on Nebius, which do the planning
- The favorites, the birth year, the language, the city, and whether it is a grandmother or a grandfather. After a visit: which suggestions landed, and your note.
- Qloo, for taste data
- The favorites, as search words, and the word for a dish you named. The years of your grandparent's youth, worked out from the birth year, and the age band “55 and older”. The city, when it looks for places nearby. After a visit: the titles that landed.
- Tavily, for local events
- One or two web searches, written from the city and the favorites. None when no city is given.
- Never sent to Qloo or Tavily
- The language, grandmother or grandfather, and your note.
- Kept by this site
- Nothing you type. Qloo's answers are kept for up to a week and web results for a day, under keys that cannot be turned back into your words. A one-way code for your network address is kept for rate limits and deleted within a day.
The site runs on Vercel and keeps those answers and counters in Upstash. Each service named here handles what it receives under its own terms.